3 Tips to Eliminate Defensiveness from Your Relationship

We had a great time making this video. We laugh every time when we see the purse hit the computer screen. I think Stephanie really got into playing that character!

In this episode we take on defensiveness and offer 3 tips to eliminate it from your relationship. As you will see in the video, defensiveness in a relationship is not helpful. Rather than leading to resolution or a constructive conversation it often just escalates into an argument. In fact, it is a strong predictor of divorce. It is one of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse that Dr. John Gottman uses to predict divorce. I think the challenge of eliminating defensiveness is that the person who is getting defensive can often feel under attack. This is where our 3 tips come in handy.

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